Mr. Thomas O'Connor

  • Born: June 21, 1950
  • Died: March 25, 2019
  • Location: West Chester, Pennsylvania

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Tribute & Message From The Family

Message From The Family

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Thomas Joseph O'Connor of West Chester, Pa. and La Quinta, Ca., passed away peacefully on March 25, 2019 at his residence in La Quinta, Ca. He was born on June 21, 1950 to Thomas J. O'Connor and Kathryn T. (Lynch), in Philadelphia. He graduated summa cum laude from the University of Notre Dame and proudly wore his class ring his entire life. He spent a year abroad studying art and architecture in Rome, Italy, a city he fell in love with and visited numerous times. Tom was a retired partner in the architecture firm SOSH Architects based in Atlantic City and New York City. After retirement he traveled extensively and managed to visit five of the seven continents. He is survived by his beloved wife, Nancy (McLaughlin), and loving children, Dylan O'Connor and Caitlin O'Connor. He is a much loved brother of Kate DiLullo (Bob),and Michael O'Connor (Eileen). Tom is also survived by his nieces, nephews and many friends who will greatly miss him. Tom had a keen wit. Undecided as to what his epitaph should read, he narrowed it down to, "Not quite what I was planning." or, "I don't have time for this." A celebration of Tom's life is planned for this summer, date and time to be announced.

Condolence & Memory Journal

It is so hard to grasp that Tom's dynamic presence is no longer physically with us. What gives us comfort is his rich legacy as a devoted family man, talented architect, wit, charm, and a shining vibrancy for life. That bright light will occupy a special place in our hearts forever.

Posted by Arlene Weissman - Huntingdon Valley, PA - Friend   April 10, 2019

Posted by Nancy O'Connor - West Chester, PA - Spouse   April 07, 2019

He was always smiling. Rest In Peace.

Posted by Maggie Murphy - Port Washington - Acquaintance   April 07, 2019

A friend sent me this poem and it truly captures feelings when you lose a loved one.

Posted by Helene McDevitt - Philadelphia, PA - Family   April 07, 2019

Knowing Tom since I was 14 years old leaves a lifetime of memories. As stated, he loved to travel and I was fortunate enough to travel with Tom and Nancy many times. One of my most recent trips to Italy started in Florence. Having arrived from the airport to the hotel, meeting up with them in the lobby I was immediately directed by Tom that I HAD to come to the rooftop bar and have a drink. Went to the rooftop and there was the most magnificent view of Florence. That was Tom, planning and designing your best experience of the city. Many wonderful memories and perfect restaurant selections. He truly lived his life to the fullest. Love and miss you dearly. Helene

Posted by Helene McDevitt - Philadelphia, PA - Family   April 07, 2019

I was saddened by the news of Tom's passing.

It is rare to find an individual of his stature and with so much passion for the world of architecture. I was fortunate to work with Tom for 10 years while at SOSH. Tom had a special sense to interpret the client's goals in a way themselves did not realize until he explained. His passion for his work was always present and he always delivered as promised. He was a very compassionate man and treated all equally. He will be truly missed. My thoughts and prayers go out to Nancy, Dylan and Caitlin and all who grieve his loss.

Jeff Wynkoop AIA, Macau SAR, China

Posted by Jeff Wynkoop AIA - Macau, SAR China - Coworker   April 05, 2019

My condolences to you all. Tom was spark of brilliance and always a delight to work with. I have missed his AC / PA presence since his leaving, but he will always remain in my memory memories as one of the good guys.

Posted by Karen Babb - Seabrook Island, SC - Coworker   April 05, 2019

I worked at SOSH in the early days.
OC was a cool guy to work with.
I would always tell him. "I still don't know what you do here".

Posted by Harry Sroka - NJ - Coworker   April 05, 2019


Posted by Tom Falvey - Ardmore - Friend   April 05, 2019

I had the honor of working with Tom on several projects and I always enjoyed his skill and wit. He took his profession very seriously but was always able to smile under the sometimes immense pressure of deadlines and client expectations.

I will miss catching up with Tom over a glass of white wine.

Best wishes to Tom's family and colleagues.

Kind regards,
Keith Irtenkauf

Posted by Keith Irtenkauf - Farmington Hills, MI - Coworker   April 05, 2019

Family Album

Enjoying Florence
Outdoor dining in Roma
Special Restaurant in Roma
The day Tom and Nancy introduced me to my first Arnold Palmer.